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How grandmothers can harm a child’s adaptation


We all love our grandparents very much, and they, of course, also love us. But sometimes not on purpose - accidentally and inadvertently - they cause us trouble.

How our beloved grandmothers can prevent the child from adapting to a new place and what to do to prevent this from happening, the Israeli magazine writes Detki.
Why is grandma crying?
It often happens that during a conversation with children and grandchildren who live abroad, grandmothers suddenly begin to cry. Naturally, the child after such a conversation begins to ask parents questions: why is the grandmother crying, what happened? To give an intelligible answer is usually difficult. Truthful will sound like this - grandma is sorry that we no longer live with her, she is bored. But such an answer entails other difficult questions about the reason for the move, and so on. Therefore, of course, this topic is best avoided.

In response to a child’s question about why a grandmother is crying, you can invite him to ask her in person at the next conversation, because who can know better than grandmother herself, why she is crying? !!

In general, if your parents are prone to such manifestations of feelings, ask them not to cry in front of a child, explain to them that adaptation in a new place, meeting new people and everything new is so stressful for a child, especially since it’s difficult to see that his beloved grandmother is upset for reasons he doesn’t understand.


How good it was when ...

It is also a difficult and sad topic of conversation. Many grandmothers like to make nostalgic conversations with their grandchildren about how good it was when you lived together in a close “Khrushchev”, when you went to visit and visit the park around the corner, and now you are so far away and everything is bad ...

Probably, the grandmother will feel better after such a conversation, but the child again will have questions that will occupy his head, upset and not give to learn and get used to the new.

Talk to your parents honestly. Any normal grandmother understands that where her grandson is now, he is much better than in a close "Khrushchev", and even more so, there he will be much better when he grows up than he would if he had remained in the same "Khrushchev". Ask your grandmother or grandfather not to irritate the child, and you too. Only good, love and faith in the future is the best support that parents can give to their children-immigrants.

You have completely forgotten Russian

Sometimes, when the grandparents talk, when they hear a speech from the child with errors, they throw their hands to the sky and begin to lament that the child has completely forgotten Russian, that this is just a catastrophe, that you, parents, are guilty and so on. Of course, it’s not pleasant for you and the child to hear it, and such words cannot help to forget Russian.

If possible, talk to grandparents about this, explain that you are working to ensure that the child does not forget Russian.

Tell them what you are doing for this, ask them not to focus on this issue.

Everything is strange there.

If you have never heard such a phrase from your parents, then you are absolutely lucky. Of course, in different countries, different traditions, habits, even the rules of raising children. This is what most often leads to the real shock of grandparents: how, he still does not know the multiplication table, why does he eat with his hands, why does he walk without slippers? All these and other questions will put you and your child at a standstill, since for local life these are not questions at all. Grandparents should gradually be taught that they do a lot differently here - and that is not bad.

If your child has a good relationship with his grandparents, then the baby will certainly take to heart everything they say, because they are authorities for him. Grandparents should understand this very well and think before they say something harsh, offensive or cry.

The period of adaptation in a new society is a period when everyone, children and adults, perceive everything very sensitively, can easily get offended and fall into depression, which is very undesirable, because there is a lot of work and study ahead, a lot of opportunities and a whole new life.

It is much better to meet her with optimism and support of her relatives!

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