How to make useful dating in America

You've probably heard the phrase: "It's not what you know, but who you know." Nowadays, this expression is more relevant than ever. Your talents, abilities and experience will be of no use if people don't know you exist. To get what you want in life, you need to be resourceful and creative. And your environment is a huge source of opportunity.

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Caught by fate, affairs, family in another city on the map, the first question that intrusively appears in the head - where to start? For example, I first of all run to study, and then somehow everything will start.

Living in San Francisco, I realized the beauty of this city only after a year and a half of emotional wanderings. And I want to talk about how to quickly skip the line of reclusive reflections and start living a full life out of the context of “I love or dislike America.”

Why is it easier to meet in America

Apparently, in America it really is easier to meet people. A wide smile and an intense handshake are always followed by a compliment on your sweater, cufflink, dimple on your cheek, dog and, at worst, the stroller your child is sitting in. By inertia, you respond in kind, or you simply giggle shyly, repeating multiple “senk yu - senk yu” with different intonations.

But given the fact that San Francisco is secretly recognized as the Mecca of IT technology, the best minds of our time come here to find and build their happiness near Silicon Valley - compliments here are usually meager, handshakes are limp and, in principle, any communication that carries at least some kind of then friendly prospects should end with a solemn exchange of business cards.

Well, this ritual already requires specially created conditions. Therefore, if you are a startup (beginner, seasoned, in the future), or an investor, or simply an interested person, not too constrained by the lack of free time and money, go straight to TechCrunch. It will be interesting, informative, there will be packs of business cards, unlimited coffee, and most importantly – great friendship based on similar interests.

Theme Conference

TechСrunch is an annual conference at which the most recent start-ups are presented - new technologies, Internet products, devices, well, a lot of all sorts of progressive borrowed nouns. In order for this huge fair not to be shocked, appearing immense, too expensive and meaningless, you need to know some of the nuances:

• At TechCrunch, people from all over the world come together to saturate their idea, so you will have to listen and speak a lot (by the way, a great place to improve your English skills);
• You can pre-enter the entrance with an impressive discount, using a student ID;
• Business cards should be with you necessarily, as it will be necessary to hand them to maintain the conversation all the time.

Useful words

Terminology that it is advisable to know and apply with a serious expression - like this... casually... when talking about the changeable weather in San Francisco:

fundraising — search and attraction of funds and other resources for the purpose of implementing a cherished startup/project;

crowdfunding (crowdfunding; from the word crowd - crowd) - in fact, the same as fundraising, only fundraising becomes collective and, as a rule, takes place on the Internet. The most famous example of crowdfunding on the web is the Kickstarter platform;

business angel - a professional private investor who buys a share in a project with his own money in the expectation of return on investment, that is, just an angel, in the very direct sense of the word;

first / second / third round (first / second / third round) - stages of attracting investments in a startup, each of which has its own exciting rules and limits, something like a roller coaster;

to launch a startup (to release) - officially release the finished software product. Well, from this point on, the applause and the persistent anticipation of success already begin;

mezzanine (mezzanine) - the stage after receiving the third round of investment and which marks the most important event for a startup - the IPO;

IPO (aipio) - often sounds like “go to IP”, which means the triumph of a startup - the first public sale of the company’s shares on the stock exchange. So, everything is not in vain - an angel cries with joy, crowdfunding participants shake hands with a sigh of relief, founders (startup founders) drink champagne from their throats!

Expanding your vocabulary in the field of startup can be infinite, to the extent that at some point it is fraught with a complete transition to a new technological language. But you are unlikely to be understood anywhere outside the IT conferences and offices.

After such activities, borrowed nouns usually crash deep into consciousness and speech.

Therefore, let us dwell on a primitive basic level, which will allow you to make a decent exchange of business cards with a pleasant continuation on a start-up avterpati somewhere on a pretty rooftop in downtown. After such activities, borrowed nouns usually crash deep into consciousness and speech.

Know the mitap

For those who are more creative and not inclined to constantly generate ideas in the IT dimension, there is an alternative option for a pleasant and useful acquaintance. It’s called a meetup (from the English “meet up”).

This idea itself was born by those same IT specialists - as another interactive startup. Today the platform has more than 23 million users from 180 countries. To find a meeting in your city, go to meetup.com and choose an area and a topic that interests you.

In San Francisco, mitapes turned for many into a lifestyle, a basic hobby and leisure, a source of information, inspiration, dating, and sometimes income. Many thanks to him have developed their businesses, made films, wrote books or simply built families.

In essence, a meetup is a circle of interests, something like our distant, but not yet completely forgotten Palace of Pioneers, only for adults. Here you have a choir, say, “Skvorushka”, and a cutting and sewing club “Skillful Hands”, and a volleyball section with a literary studio and a noise orchestra to boot. Now we will add all sorts of locations to these circles - from a small wine bar around the corner to a museum of modern art, depending on the scope of the organizers, the capabilities of sponsors, the theme of the event and the number of participants.

In most cases, these are small companies (10-16 people) who meet in places reserved in advance by the organizer (mainly restaurants and cafes), where they spend a wonderful time over a glass of good wine and talking about a common and interesting topic, originally designated as mitapa

And the themes of these parties for interests are simply inexhaustible - here you can practice Italian and cook vegetarian lasagna, assemble complex Lego constructions and learn Bob Dylan's songs by heart, solve puzzles from Singapore mathematics to classical music, dance the bottom break with those who use 60 . At the same time, you can finally figure out what bitcoins are and download wallets for yourself, do theater plays on Chuck Palahniuk, collect incredible beauty of field flowers and learn to walk easily and naturally on 15-centimeter heels.

In general, the range of possibilities is very impressive! And the first step towards this kind of acquaintance with the city, and ultimately with yourself, is registration on the website meetup.com. Then it all depends on your imagination and range of hobbies. The main thing is that you can attend the meetup without business cards, under a fictitious name, in an elegant dress, and straight from the gym.

In sneakers for the best dating

But the topic of sports in the US should also be attributed to one of the options to make acquaintances. Jogging in the morning and TRX on the embankment - absolute old school. Small private gyms in garages or huge and pretentious in old cinemas - this also does not surprise the local sports and sophisticated audience.

Perhaps roller skating in an abandoned church called the Church of 8 wheels (“Church of the Eight Wheels”) is still able to intrigue, but only once and not the most demanding athlete. And we will go to get acquainted with the flavor of local sports in the most trendy and productive places, where it will be difficult, intense and very special.

With nightclubs in San Francisco it didn’t go well: there are few clubs, they close early (until 2 o'clock at night), people are not the most elegant, wicked and plastic, but the biggest minus is the lack of courage, that is, when all of the above suddenly merges into the “beautiful together” and carries you in a powerful stream through the waves of joy. But there are places here where even in 7.00 of the morning you can catch the courage for the whole day, just pedaling to the music of the best DJs and performers of the world.

Soul Cycle is a small dark room with ultraviolet club lighting, burning candles on the floor, spinning discobol in the center and with slender rows of exercise bikes. When you find yourself there for the first time, you think that you just made a mistake by the door, you want to cover your leggings and bare torso and urgently, gently backing back, while no one has noticed, run after the heels and lace dress.

But, not being able to figure out in the dark which door you should back through, you unexpectedly catch the magical sounds of Radiohead - Everything in its right place - in some stunning remix, and your legs themselves carry you along the rows to your treasured bike.

Attentive and completely imperceptible employees of the club, to the rhythm of the music, gently set up the simulator for your height and limb length, then, with a light touch, fasten your special shoes, issued at the entrance, to the pedals. And now you are already rushing into all through space and time, picking up rhythms and moods, squinting your eyes from discos and just losing your sanity from the sports euphoria that is overwhelming you.

Well, and, apparently, so that you do not completely dissolve in this strange cycling dance and, besides the unconsciously involved leg muscles, pump over some other less intuitive ones, such as a press and triceps, in a small stage, under the ultraviolet, a cyclist in the shape of a cyclist appears . He cheerfully and briefly informs you about the program of this 45-minute check-in, emphasizes cardio load, reminds you of towels and water that are carefully folded on the sides of the bike, and most importantly, strongly recommends turning off the brain, closing your eyes and just getting into the pedals and the whole body in the rhythm of the tracks.

And then these tracks become such that your body wants to sneeze at the possibilities of your cardio, and you twist these pedals chained to you with all your might, just not to miss the strong beat. And so - beat by beat, periodically doing push-ups from the steering wheel, lifting dumbbells, squats and swaying, you reach the finish line, where Coldplay meets you with their Up&Up, and you are ready to cry from the feeling of pride bursting through you, not only for what you just you easily pumped up virtually all the necessary muscle groups and did not die, but because you accidentally found the best nightclub in San Francisco at 7 am.

If you’re not ready to meet people on exercise bikes, try yoga classes at Ritual Hot Yoga. Also in the dark and by candlelight, even in 40-degree heat, specially recreated in the hall in the best traditions of the Turkish hammam. Here, instead of the usual meditative melodies, you can stand rhythmically, drenched in streams of sweat, in the “downward-facing dog” pose to, for example, Baha Man - Who Let the Dog Out. Dynamic hot yoga is akin to modern ballet, where everyone seems to know how to gracefully stand on pointe shoes, but at the same time they relax hip-hop in them, gently and persistently stretching the steamed muscles.

Another sports discovery was group classes in San Francisco parks called Boot Camp. You can sign up for them online by selecting a suitable location in advance. Each bootcamp has its own focus and target audience. For example, in Golden Gate Park, age groups with fairly gentle loads and a large number of walks often gather; in Dolores Park, bootcamps are more strength-oriented - for those who like to run on slides and play relay races, as well as do push-ups and jump rope.

In general, Boot Camp is such a sporty meet up, in which just fewer words, and more work, well, in addition, a lot of fresh air, which definitely benefits any target audience.

Wherever you start dating today, the main thing is to start. And then it will pick you up, swallow it, introduce you to those people you never even dreamed about meeting, show those places that will take your breath away, tell those stories you want to remember, to understand your grandchildren.

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