How is the new sexual revolution going on in the USA

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In America, unfolding new sexual revolution. However, it is sex in her is incomparably less. If the first sexual revolution was for the right to have sex with anyone you want, then the present one is for determining your identity, for the right to be who you want. Today’s culture includes not only the right to sleep with anyone you want, but also to say that you don’t want to sleep with anyone and are not interested in sex.

“Gender is an obsolete social construct of the twentieth century, just as class struggle is an obsolete concept of the 19 century,” the future sociologist Judy, an American Chinese woman of 22, tells me. In her studio, not far from Columbia University, we eat with appetite the sauerkraut I brought, which I presented as the Russian version of kimchi.

Judy confirms the precariousness of the gender construct by example. At school, to the horror of her traditional parents, she realized that she was a lesbian. In college, Judy discovered transgenderism. She, it was, began the procedure for transformation, but realized that she could not have children. Doctors explained to her that it was necessary to choose - either the children, or “to be satisfied and happy.” By that time, she was already disappointed in transgenderness and decided to remain a girl.

“You know, I was always pissed off about being raised by a girl,” says Judy. - “Trance” is the same thing - you push yourself into the binary axis - transman or transgender. And I do not want to be in this axis. I do not feel either one or the other ... LGBT? - this is not about me too ... Homosexuality ?? “Brrr, homonormatism is the same nasty thing as heteronormatism ...”

Judy is dressed in dark wide clothes that hide her nice figure.

"I do not like colorful women's things, I do not like when the chest stands out ... Yes - I am an aromatic cisgender demi (semi) -girl ... I do not refuse casual sex ... With girls soon, but also with guys too ... ”.

Judy lives with a Vietnamese-American business management student named Ti. “The name means a flowering branch of peach,” T explained when we met. Judy and I met at the very beginning, in an orientation class for applicants. Then we met and decided not to part ... We felt that we could lean on each other, trust each other in everything. We do not betray each other ... No, we do not have sex, but we hug, sometimes we fall asleep in the same bed. ”

Ti defines himself as agender and asexual. She is entirely focused on a business career and has no intention of getting married. “I’m a virgin,” says Tee. – And I’m not going to waste time on novels! There are much more important things in life than love. What exactly? First of all, trust, faith in another person.” After university, Tee is determined to return to California, where her mother and aunt need her for their large and successful business.

“Aromantika,” says Judy, “means that I don’t need romance, I can’t fall in love ... Oh, of course, I can love people! I love my family very much, I love my friends, I love Ti and Steve, but to fall in love, to fall on someone - this has never happened, and I do not believe that this will happen in my life. ”

Steve is a Korean engineering student who joined Judy and Tee a year and a half ago. It is more convenient for the three of them to run the household. The presence of a guy protects against possible harassment in the vibrant student subculture, which both students and sociologists call hook-up “РїРѕРґС † епД ять.

If their cohabitation is unique according to campus standards, then not by asexuality and the negation of gender roles (there are enough of these at any university today). The Chinese, Koreans, Vietnamese and other immigrants from Southeast Asia (although they are trying to drive them under the cap of Asian-Americans) keep their communities. If they let someone in, there are more white Americans than each other. The boys are proud that their home has become an Asian-American meeting place for both foreign students and those born in America.

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In 1970-90, gay and lesbian students raised the banner of the struggle for the right to be different on campuses. Later, transgender people took their place in university identity politics. Now this banner is surely picked up by groups of students who reject any attempts to classify identity. New generations consider gender to be outdated and irrelevant. Many of them react painfully to the imposition of gender labels, see this as an attempt at oppression, an attempt on their freedom and self-determination.

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