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How life in the USA changes people: the personal experience of our immigrant

Непрерывно в США я около 8 месяцев, не считая зимовки в Калифорнии пару лет назад. Novice — так радостно называют меня знакомые. Действительно, по меркам иммигрантов, живущих здесь пять-семь лет, я и есть тот самый новичок.

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How is life changing in the USA?

Dialogue with a longtime friend who loves shopping.

“Listen, and in which stores you can get a good leather jacket?” I ask.

«Ой, да их здесь и не носят. Вот сколько заметила, максимум ветровки или толстовки. Так что и нет смысла брать, не понадобится даже», — говорит она.

For me, the answer is a bit strange. I did not ask whether they wear it or not, to buy or not, but I was interested in a particular store. And during her life in the USA she noticed: I am becoming more intolerant of unsolicited advice.

I understand my friend. She has been living here for 10 years, another ten years older than me. I am sure that the council had a desire to help, to warn against a purchase that was unnecessary in its understanding.

Раньше я тоже любила раздать советы подружкам — проблемы с парнем? Поговори или разойдись. На работе не поднимают зарплату? Обсуди или увольняйся. Я была очень категоричной. В то время как сейчас осознаю: зачастую человек ищет поддержки. Просто хочет быть услышанным. А совет мне нужно давать, только если попросили. В США это ощущается еще сильнее, лезть с советами без просьбы на то — нарушение личных границ.

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Changes have occurred externally.

“You're smiling all the time!” And as if revived, there are so many emotions, ”write acquaintances who watch my videos on Instagram.

Frankly, this was surprising. After all, I smiled before. But apparently, in the USA, pulling the corners of your mouth up has become a habit.

At first she was uncomfortable. Here I am walking by the lake, a woman of about 60 is coming to meet me. She smiles and welcomes. A cashier in a supermarket asks how things are going and is also in full swing. They don’t know me, why? But gradually got used to it. She said that already on autopilot I was smiling at a stranger or was interested in the seller, like a day.

Someone will say supposedly falsehood, pretense. For me, now the norm is to share a piece of warmth or good mood with another.

This is just the tip of the iceberg. And so curious to keep track of it in yourself.

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